Sunday, December 19, 2010

And the Gender is...

BABY GIRL! That's right, next June (or May if she decides to come a few days early) Trey and I will be welcoming sweet little Kathryn Elizabeth Holmes into the world. We will call her Kate.

At our Wednesday appt, we were supposed to only hear the baby's heartbeat and check my weight, blood pressure, etc. We decided to see if Dr. Haddock would let us take a sneak peak to try and find out the gender. I'm 16 weeks at this point, and most doctors like to wait until at least 18 weeks. But it is Christmastime, and we thought we could appeal to this if she needed convincing. Only, no convinving was needed. When Trey asked, Dr. Haddock said "Sure, I have no problem with that. Let me just make sure Jules (the sono tech) has some free time." Easy enough. And sure enough, Jules was busy but so willing to accomodate us. I just love my doctor and her staff.

It was so fun seeing our little one bounce around on the screen. She is one active little baby now. It was difficult getting an accurate heart rate reading because she moved so much. And she looks like a little baby now!! The first three sonograms we saw (weeks 7-9) she was just a little peanut on the screen. Now she has a head, arms, legs, and a belly filled with food from her mommy. It took Jules a little while of shaking my tummy to get our little girl to uncross her legs...she was just a little modest. We didn't mind waiting because it was so neat watching her. I don't know how people really understand those sonograms without help. Sometimes I couldn't tell what was what until Jules explained it, and sometimes I couldn't even tell after she explained it! When Jules said, "This is a little baby...GIRL!" we were both shocked. We are having a girl. Wow.

It all seems so much more real when you know the gender and have a sono picture of the profile of your baby. When we got home from our appointment, I went straight to Wal Mart and walked around the baby section, looking at all the sweet little girl clothes. I laid awake most of that night thinking over and over, "a little baby girl, a little baby girl." I can't believe it. I just knew we were having a boy, for no other reason than I just thought that's what we were having. I am so excited to have a little girl, though. Really, all I want is a healthy baby, and I'd be thrilled to have a boy or a girl. What a blessing that the Lord is giving us a sweet little girl!

Kate is named after her grandmother (Kathryn is my mom's middle name) and her aunt (Elizabeth is my sister's middle name), two godly women who have been instrumental in my life. Her name means "pure" and "consecrated to God." Exactly what we want our little girl to be! I look forward to watching Trey be the daddy to our sweet girl. He is going to be amazing. He is already madly and tenderly in love with her. It is so precious.

Thanks for your prayers and for sharing in our excitement. We love you all!

Sunday, December 5, 2010

A Life Lesson from Wesley Adam Mills, Jr.

Last weekend (Saturday after Thanksgiving), Trey and I went to a funeral for our friends' baby who died in the womb. At their 2nd trimester ultrasound, Welsey Adam was diagnosed with a terminal illness called anencephaly. Wesley survived a 31 weeks in his mother's womb, at which time the Lord called him to Heaven.

As we prepared to drive to the funeral (we were in Odessa so had to leave at 5AM to make it on time to the Fort Worth funeral), I prepared myself mentally and spiritually for this service. There would be a tiny casket, and it would hold the body of a stillborn baby. With all the fears I've battled this pregnancy, I did not want this to be another way Satan gets hold in my life and robs me of the joy this pregnancy brings. Even as I prayed, I felt God comforting me.

The service was a beautiful one. While the loss was real and difficult to grasp, there was such a palatable reminder of hope throughout the service. Psalm 139 struck a chord in my spirit as they read and proclaimed its truth. Even before we are formed in the womb, God in all His wisdom and love has our days numbered. This brings me such comfort. What happened to little Wesley Adam wasn't some cosmic accident. His life wasn't a waste. Though brief, his 31 weeks in the womb proved powerful and glorifying to the Lord. People have heard of God's redemptive love because of the Mill's story. And God's grace has sustained them through this difficult time. That little baby boy, loved and cherished by the Lord, was not once alone or forgotten by God. There was no need to fear, ever, for God had everything in His control.

All the fears I've battled before and during this pregnancy do not take this Truth into account. Fears do not recognize God's power, knowledge, and involvement in our lives. Our little baby in my womb is completely in God's control and sustained only by His life-giving power. Nothing can harm our baby without God's foreknowledge. I can rest in that. And I can also rest in the fact that whatever comes our way in the future, whether it pertains to our children, our jobs, our family, whatever comes our way, at that time God's grace will sustain us. Just as He has graciously sustained the Mills family in this terribly difficult time in their journey. Today has enough worries of its own for me to be fretting over what may or may not come tomorrow. I have to trust, I have to faith in God that when those storms in life come, He will be there to sustain us with grace, hope, and peace. He is enough.