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Thanks for dropping by! As you can see, I haven't updated this blog in a while. While the many posts I had written here will remain, you can find me blogging now over at Chasing Genuine. Look forward to meeting you!

How We Got Here

I wanted to write a post providing a little background as to why Trey and I chose to foster. This is not something that has always been on my radar. When we got married, Trey and I discussed the possibility of adopting one day. He was more "for it" than I was, but I was also wanting to have biological children first. I would definitely be open to adoption after we had our own children.

A little over a year into our marriage, Trey and I got pregnant with our first little one. We named the child Benton, although we did not make it far enough along into the pregnancy to find out the gender. I had an early miscarriage. We were devastated by this loss, which also came on the heals of losing our brother-in-law to a terrible car accident. We named the baby Benton because that name means "little blessed one," and we cannot imagine anything more blessed than going straight into the arms of the Lord and not ever having to face the sinfulness and brokenness of this world.

That was a time of intense grief but also intense closeness to the Lord. We leaned on Him in ways we could not have understood had we not experienced these losses. Several months later we moved to our current home, hopeful and waiting for our next positive pregnancy test.

This positive did not come until 9 months later. That September of 2010, we found out we were expecting again. Words cannot describe the joy of this life and also the fear of losing another baby! But we made it through the first trimester with no problems, and in June of 2011, we welcomed our precious girl, Kate, into this world. The loss of one baby and the wait for the next allowed us to fully experience gratitude for this life God has granted us.

After Kate, we were ready to get pregnant again. I nursed exclusively for the first 12 months of Kate's life, but as I began to wean her, we were hopeful for another baby. This wait became longer and longer, and soon we were celebrating Kate's 2nd birthday. I had some health problems that year, my mom spent time in the hospital, and I had to travel frequently for preparation and celebration of my sister's wedding. The delayed "positive" on a pregnancy test made us wonder if something was wrong or if it had to do with the stress and hectic schedule of that year.

I guess we will never fully know the answer as to "why," but near the end of 2013, we did learn that we had a fertility problem. It is not one that is hopeless, and it is not one for which we plan to pursue much intensive fertility treatment. In the midst of all this waiting and wondering, God was also stirring in our hearts a longing to adopt. While the possibility and hope of more biological children is real for us, we realized there is no right order to natural and adopted children. We realized we could mix things up a bit.

In the fall of 2013, Trey and I watched the movie October Baby. After the movie, we found ourselves fighting tears and looking at the state of Texas' website at the children who are available for adoption. We didn't know "what" specifically at the time, but we knew the Lord was drawing us in to the world of orphan care.

There are many details in between, but for the sake of this blog post, I will tell you that we learned you can adopt from the foster care system, which is an essentially "free of charge" process. There are pros and cons for going this route, but as we began to explore our options, we realized we didn't want to just adopt, but to foster first. Because of Kate's age, we didn't want to adopt an older child. Kate is our first priority as we make all these considerations and decisions.

We decided we wanted to adopt a baby, and it is easier to adopt a baby by fostering first. There is also the higher chance of having to give the baby back, but that was a situation we were willing to face (see my previous post for our thoughts on this, as we just walked through this situation).

So that is our journey in a nutshell to becoming foster parents. I will be writing more in the coming days and weeks on how the process has been and common questions we have been asked. If you have any specific questions, please feel free to email me at karaj83@gmail.com. I can answer them personally and also address any general questions on the blog.

Fostering Broken Treasures

It was supposed to be the first routine visit with his conservatorship caseworker. Trey came home from work at 1:30 so he could also meet the man who would be walking this journey with us.  Chad had been in our home for two weeks at this point, and we had settled into a comfortable routine as a family of four. We were so content and thankful. We had been told by more than one official that Chad would be in our home for at least 6 months, but more likely up to a year.

And then, in the midst of this routine visit, Chad’s caseworker casually tells us that Chad will likely be moved in the next month.

What? I don’t think I heard him right.

But then he repeats himself, and I know it’s true. A fictive (friend of the biological family) kin has come forward and will have a home study this Saturday. The home study will almost undoubtedly be approved, as they have helped with foster children in the past. Chad will be leaving our home.

It was the moment I’d heard about and pretended might never come. But it was reality, and it would undoubtedly come far sooner than I had planned. Our first foster son, who we loved, prayed for, and hoped in our hearts might stay in our home forever, was going to leave us.

When Trey and I first began our journey toward becoming foster parents, many people would say things like, “Oh I admire you for that. I could never do such a thing. I could never give the child back,” or, “I could bring the child into my home but I couldn’t let him go.” I completely understand such sentiments, and honestly have felt the same way at times. The thought of bringing a broken treasure into your home and making that one a part of your family, only to have to give him or her up eventually, seems impossible.

And let me tell you: it is impossible, out of your own strength and will. But I am writing this post today to counter false beliefs I’ve either held or heard in our journey as foster parents. I am writing this because I want to share what I’ve learned.

It is crucial to note that the Lord has a heart for orphans. Throughout Scripture, the Lord provides careful instruction to His people on our responsibility to care for the fatherless (Ex. 22:22; Is. 1:17; Deut.14:28-30; 26:12-14). God calls Himself the Father to the fatherless (Ps. 68:5) and executes justice for them (Deut. 10:18; Ps. 10:14). The people of God will be held responsible for whether or not we care for orphans (Matt. 18:5; 25:45).

Basically, caring for orphans is not optional for the church. It is not optional for individual believers. God has set into motion His church as His physical hands and feet to care for those in the greatest of need. We are without excuse.

Focus on the Family has a chart showing the number of children in foster care that were waiting to be adopted in 2012 for each state. Next to these numbers, they have the number of churches in each state. I am from Texas, and I was appalled to see that churches outnumbered those children waiting to be adopted by more than double. In other words, if only one family for every two churches had adopted a child from foster care in 2012, we would have found permanent Christian homes for every child ready for adoption from foster care in the state of Texas. Then, if those two churches (or even one church) could have surrounded that one family with love and support, the body of believers would be truly exercising our calling.

But those numbers are just for adoption of these orphans. There is also the need for those in the system, foster children whose parents are unable for whatever reason to care for them for a season. These children may or may not be reunited with their biological parents; this is yet to be determined. Their lives are in disorder. They only know chaos as a familiar friend.

It is for these children that I am speaking today. My good friend Kim put it so well: we are not told in James 1:27 that pure religion is “to look after orphans and widows…” only if they can stay in your home forever. No. That is not it. We are told to look after orphans and widows “in their distress!” Future undetermined. No promise of this being their forever home. Get down and get messy, because that is what they need.

The Gospel is that gutsy. It is that raw. As believers, we are not promised easy lives, but we are promised rewarding lives as we follow after Christ. And by rewarding, I don’t necessarily mean in this life. There are eternal rewards that far outweigh the temporary gains that we so often get stuck pursuing (2 Cor. 4:17). 

So back to Chad. He moved in with his new family yesterday. We handed over this precious boy that so quickly gained our hearts’ affections. I washed all his clothes, packed up the letters of his name that we had hung on his bedroom wall, and I handed over my son. But you see, this is the thing: he was never my son. He was the one that God entrusted to our family for a season, and Trey and I loved him and cared for him as our son. But he was never our forever son.

This is the point I hope to get across to the church: this is our calling! I know that not everyone is called to foster, but we are all called to do something. We are called to be obedient. And I’m just going to throw this out there, but I do believe more are called to foster than are doing so. For those of you who doubt you could foster because you think, “I could never give a child back,” you can! If I can do it, you can.

How can I do it? By the power of Christ in me. Does it hurt? Yes. Is it messy? Yes. Did I already have dreams of Chad being the one we would adopt as our son? Of course. But do I trust that God has a plan for my family, for Chad’s life, and for all those details in between? Without a doubt. And last question: Was it worth it?

YES!

Chad came to us not making any cooing noises. They thought he might be deaf, but during the month and half he lived with us and had a family who would hold him, talk to him, and give him attention, he has begun to coo and to catch up on his developmental milestones. He came to us weighing in the 8^th percentile for his age, and he grew to be quite a heavy little guy with a consistent, healthy diet. He did not sleep through the night but slept more like a newborn, but with a secure and predictable environment, he became routine, sleeping through the night and taking two naps a day.

Most importantly, Chad heard about God’s love. He may be too young to understand or remember it, but I believe there is power in speaking Truth into someone’s life. We prayed for him, as did our family and our church family. He will forever have prayer warriors he might never meet. Trey and I chose scripture to pray specifically over Chad (Ps. 91:14-16), and we have joy in knowing that his new mom and dad will also be praying these verses over him.

Was it worth it? Absolutely.

We are waiting now for the call. Whenever that next child is in need of a home, they will call us, and all will be set into motion. We will pull out all that baby stuff. We will set out clothes and pull out the bassinet, if needed. The car seat will be loaded in my car. We will text our support group and let our church family know. And we will do it again with joy in our hearts. We will face the sleepless nights. We will hug and love that one who can’t be consoled because their world is in chaos. We will watch our biological two year old fall in love with another foster sibling, knowing that again she might have to say goodbye.

Because let me tell you a precious nugget that God has shown me: no one has so much love for children that they are off the hook. You cannot tell me, “Oh, I could never give a child back” and think that this means you are excused. None of us has an excuse to do nothing. I could not possibly love a little one more than the Heavenly Father who created that child. And our Heavenly Father, who lavishes His love on the fatherless, expects us to love these little ones, too. This love is not a verbal one, but a physical and messy love. It is a love that is backed up by action. It is a sacrificial love that does not give up in the face of adversity.

We are all called to do something. Not in our strength can we do it, but we have within our reach the One who gives us new mercies every morning. We have one who is Faithful (Lam. 3:22-24). And He will supply all our need with His glorious riches in Christ Jesus (Phil. 4:19).

Amen.

Travelin' Fools.

That is what Kate and I have been these past few months. As I am packing to head to Georgia tomorrow, I realized I have been doing that a lot lately - packing, that is. And heading to Georgia. In October, I was there for a week and a half (including a quick trip to TN over one weekend). In November, Trey, Kate and I traveled to Nashville for Greg and Gretchen's wedding, then to Georgia for Thanksgiving. Fast forward a few weeks later, and we headed BACK to Georgia for Christmas in December for two whole weeks. Then, we have gone to Odessa the last two weekends. And now, Kate and I head to Georgia tomorrow. And you know what that makes me??

Tired.

And happy.

And very, very thankful!

I have loved seeing all of our family so frequently over the last few months. We even got to be in Odessa when Trey's sister and kids were there, too, so we all had a blast. And I'm especially grateful to be heading to Georgia tomorrow. While this trip was not planned or even thought of a few weeks ago, mom's recent illness has brought about a chance for us to be together again. And I am especially thankful because she has been healing so well, especially over the last week. 

So when you wonder where I have been in the blogging world...I've probably been in the car :)

More soon!

Mission Night

I read a great book recently by Sally Clarkson called "The Mission of Motherhood." It is a very challenging and encouraging book for moms, especially stay at home moms. She also has many good ideas for creative ways to teach and model godly living into your home. One idea I really liked was having a mission night.

Last week we had our first mission night. Once a month we are going to choose a country to be our theme for mission night. We will eat their food, learn about their customs and ways, and talk about ways we can pray for those people. Our first mission night was for China. I made egg drop soup, sweet and sour pork, and beef chow mein. During dinner, we talked with Kate, Marilee, and Burke (my niece and nephew) about China. My niece, who is 6, especially caught on as we discussed how Christianity is illegal there and we must pray for those Christians. After dinner, the girls colored pictures of traditional Chinese clothes and a picture of the country with their Aunt Lee while Trey and Burke played Chinese ninjas in the living room. I cleaned up and made some rice pudding for dessert.

Overall, it was such a meaningful evening for us. Through her years of teaching, my mom has collected different artifacts and pieces from various countries. While I'm home for Christmas she is going to help me go through the things she has so we can use them in the coming months for our mission nights. I wanted to share this idea in case someone else might want to give it a try in their home. Merry Christmas!

"Trick or Treating" with Raggedy Anne

 

The above picture is of Kate and me last Halloween. She was almost 5 months old there. I was a strawberry farmer, and she, of course, was the best strawberry I'd picked all year! Below is me with my darling girl this year, almost 17 months old. I cannot believe how much she has changed in one year. As I've said before, it breaks my heart and fills it with joy all at the same time.

This year Kate was Raggedy Anne. She was a lot of fun to take "trick or treating" this year, since she could carry her own bag, run around, and stuff her mouth full of candy...with the wrappers on them, still. Here are some "action" shots.

I want to just eat her up! Of course, I won't do that, but I did manage to eat most of her candy up. Whoops!

Oh, and last but not least, I'll bet you didn't know Raggedy Anne is also a talented drummer, did you?

J is for Just Because

If you're new to the blog and wondering what ABC dating is all about, here is the first post I did to explain it all. Enjoy!

J is for Just Because, 9/1/12

Before Trey and I were married, we received a great piece of advice from someone (I wish I could remember who to give that person credit, but my memory fails me!). We had debated whether or not to register for fine china. I really wanted some, but I also didn't want to spend all that money on something we didn't use much. An older woman (this much I know) told me that her family pulled out their china once a week and used it as a family. This meal was then a special meal, an intentional meal, one that made use of their china and reminded them to slow down and enjoy one another.

Trey and I loved that idea, and we made it a habit of using our china regularly during our first couple years of marriage. When we moved here to Canton, there wasn't a convenient place to put my china, so it is stored in an inconvenient location in our cupboards. Because of that, I got out of the habit of pulling it out. A few weeks ago, I decided to pull it out to fancy up a normal meal with the family. This is what sparked Trey's idea for our "just because" date.

So what is the "just because" date? Well, we pulled out the china, of course, just because! We put Kate to bed, we fixed dinner, we dressed up, and we had a date at home, just because!  Trey lit candles, I wore heals, and I even freshened up my makeup...just because! It was a very romantic and relaxing date.

Let me back up and say, I especially enjoyed this date because it was so simple. We didn't have to arrange for a babysitter. We didn't have to pay for a meal out. We made use of things at home the Lord has blessed us with, like our china. We enjoyed a meal of quiet, putting Kate to bed before the date began, and watched a movie in the comfort of our own home. Nothing is wrong with going out on a fancy date and spending money, of course, but it was just refreshing to be romantic and fancy at home! Well, without further ado, here is our date!

The important thing about "just because" date was teamwork. It didn't just come together; we discussed our plan, divided up the responsibilities, and made it happen! I fed Kate while Trey was at work, and when he got home, I worked on dinner for us while he bathed Kate and got her ready for bed. Here is my sweet girl in the tub while I worked in the kitchen:

She cracked us up this night. After Trey put her in her pajamas, Kate got into her closet and got out her white dress shoes. She cried until he put them on her. I'm thinking she wanted to get dressed up, too, and join us for our date. But we just had to tell her that no babies are allowed on our dates :)

After Trey put Kate to bed about 715 (we love early bedtime for babies!!), he got all dressed up in his slacks and dress shirt. When he was finished, he took over setting the table while I got ready. I came out to a candle lit dinner on the table. Also, we had a cd playing in the background with all sorts of classic love songs to help set the romantic, peaceful mood.

I cooked us a new meal from a Rachel Ray magazine. It is called chip & dip burgers, and it is good! We had an avacado/tomato salsa, black beans, and chips and salsa with our burgers.

We ate our dinner slowly and enjoyed conversation with one another. After dinner, I had the coffee pot ready to be turned on to brew us some delicious decaf coffee. We also had slices of Italian Creme cake and strawberries I'd made the other day.

One drawback to a dinner date at home is that there is no waiter to clean up after you. After dessert, we quickly cleaned the kitchen, changed into our pjs, and snuggled on the couch to watch a movie. We did let the dogs in after dinner, as you can tell in the picture below.

Thanks for stopping by. I'd love to hear if anyone else is trying their own version of ABC dating!

My Desk

Trey and I live in a tiny house. It is a cute house, it totally fits our needs at this point in our life, and it is very affordable for us right now. But it is a tiny house. This past summer we almost bought a house. However, as we got into the process, we decided this wasn't the wisest decision at the time. The house was a great deal as a foreclosure, but we discovered more and more work that would need to be done once we moved in, and we decided this wasn't the best we could get for our money right now.

Through that home buying process, we walked away from the experience more content and thankful for our tiny house. A few things we love about it are the closeness we have as a family, since you are never too far from the family physically when inside the home; the low rent and utilities; the cuteness of our home (I do love how it is laid out); and the location, right near downtown Canton and across the street from Trey's work.

But one great frustration for me has been that I don't have a workspace. Since I'm a stay at home mom, I handle things like paying bills. I also am on the planning team for our area MOPS group, which means I have things I work on at home. Not having a space means that my work gets spread throughout the house. Bills are left on the kitchen table, coupons sit out on the counter for days until I can get around to sorting them, and our laptop sits on an end table in the living room so I can work when Kate is sleeping. This has been so frustrating for me. I decided I needed a desk, and I found the perfect little spot in our bedroom. The only problem is, every desk I looked at was $100+. I did not want to spend that kind of money!

Today, I am pleased to say, I found my desk!! I went to First Monday, a HUGE marketplace/trade days event our town has every month. This is also where I found Kate's dresser for her nursery. I got the desk for $40, and it is just what I wanted!!

The coolest thing is, I have been praying for the Lord to provide a desk. This is exactly what I'd envisioned, and I had some birthday money to buy a desk, but I didn't want to pay a ton for a desk that isn't well built in the first place. I am thankful to the Lord for providing this desk, which is built well and just what I had been looking for.

Where do you do all your mommy work? I can't wait to get my stuff settled in and get to work at my desk!

A Day at the Museum

A few weeks ago, Trey and I loaded up our little girl and headed to the Dallas Museum of Nature and Science for his birthday. What a fun day we had! We ended up joining the museum for a little bit more than we paid that day, and it has already paid off to do so. 

That day, we stayed at the museum most of the day. We watched the Imax on whales. Kate did...ok during the movie. She was interested at times and wanted to climb around and play most of the time. They have a special exhibit on sharks right now, which was fun to walk through. But the play area for kids was by far the highlight of our visit. Kate had a blast. Plus, as a bonus present to Trey for his bday, she slept through lunch so we could eat in peace, then we woke her up at the end so she could eat. It was fabulous! Enjoy the pics!

Summer Travels

It has been one wild and crazy summer for the Holmes family. At the end of May, our little family piled into Trey's truck and drove to Odessa for Memorial Day weekend. What a relaxing time that was with his family. In the beginning of June, all of Trey's family and my family came to Canton to celebrate Kate's first birthday. My sister and her fiance also got engaged here. Big week! Kate and I then traveled back to Georgia with my parents. When Kate and I flew back to Texas a week and a half later, Trey was already at his second youth camp! We drove down to South Texas to visit with him and the youth for a day.

We were home for a few weeks, then the second week of July, our little family (dogs included) loaded up and headed east again. We stopped for the night in Georgia, picked up my mom, dropped off the dogs, and continued on to the northern part of North Carolina. We actually drove into Virginia to get to our destination at Lake Gaston. My aunt and uncle live there, and I grew up vacationing there with family, so it was fun for Trey to see and experience this place. As a matter of fact, the first time I'd ever been there was when I was just 11 months old...pretty close to my daughter's age when she first visited!

Our time at the lake was so blessed. My aunts and mom watched Kate a lot for us, and Trey and I spent our days playing on the sea doo, skiing, floating on the pontoon boat, swimming, reading, and napping. Just typing that sentence makes me want to go back. We drove back down after a few days, spent a couple days with my parents, then drove back to Georgia.

We've been home for a couple weeks now, and this Thursday my mom flies in. Kate and I will pick her up and we will all head straight to Arkansas to celebrate my cousin's wedding.

All in all, this summer has been filled with much traveling and, most importantly, much time with family. I am so thankful for this time. I am also thankful that Kate is a good little traveler!!!

Beating the Heat

I don't know about where you live, but it has been hot here in Texas. Our poor little AC can't even keep up with the heat by mid-afternoon. Lately we've had all our fans on high, all our blinds closed and our blackout curtains drawn by lunchtime just trying to keep our poor little house from heating up to 80 degrees before supper time! Thankfully the floor fans and ceiling fans really help the AC out, and overall we've been able to keep the house cool.

This has, however, brought about a major change in our eating habits. We do not eat out often, maybe once every couple weeks, so we cook at home a lot. But with the heat the way it's been, turning the oven on has not been an option, either. We have, therefore, turned to two alternative forms of cooking: crock pot cooking and grilling out often.

I wanted to share a couple recipes from the crock pot that we have really enjoyed. The first is a crock pot lasagna I found online. It is so yummy, you won't believe your taste buds! This recipe has a rating of 4.5 stars out of 5 by 350 different people, which tells you a lot right there. I always read reviews from those who have already tried a recipe. A highly rated recipe by that many people or more typically means it is going to be a good meal! One thing I did find from all the reviewers was a tip to add about 1-1.5 cups water around the edges of the lasagna before you cook to prevent it from burning/drying out. I did this and 4 hours later, it was the most fabulous lasagna I have had in a long time. Plus it is so easy to make.

Another recipe I made was one I kind of made up when I realized we were out of spaghetti noodles. I was going to make a cheesy chicken spaghetti but had to change things up a bit, so I improvised. Here's what I did. Take 3-4 uncooked chicken breasts and cut them into bite-sized pieces. Put them in your crock pot. Then add 1 can cream of mushroom (or cream of chicken, depending on your tastes) soup, 1 can chicken broth, 1/2 stick butter (for added yumminess), 1 can of rotel, and 1 cup of rice. Mix it all up a bit, put the lid on, and cook on low for 3-4 hours, depending on your crock pot. In the end you will have a lovely cheesy chicken and rice dish. I served it with a side of cooked spinach, but next time I might even toss some spinach in with it to let it cook in with the rest of the meal.

If you have any great crock pot recipes, I'd love to have them to try out!! Email me or leave a comment. We are definitely looking for more variety in our crock pot meals :)

Here are the ingredients for the Cheesy Chicken and Rice:
3-4 chicken breasts, cut into bite-sized pieces
1 can cream of mushroom soup
1 can chicken broth
1/2 stick butter
1 can rotel
1 cup rice

I is for Investigate

I: Investigate, 7/6/12

Have you ever heard of geocaching? I had not until recently, when my sister's fiance took her on a date to go geocaching. Let me tell you about geocaching. Geocaching is basically a global treasure hunt of sorts; anyone can participate, and the caches are hidden everywhere. Seriously! I visited Trey and our youth at youth camp a few weeks ago, a random small Baptist camp in southeast Texas, and there were 2 caches hidden on the campus. To find a geocache, you need 3 things: 1) A GPS to locate the coordinates and guide you to the general area the cache is hidden 2) A mode of transportation, should the cache be somewhere you need to drive or ride a bike to 3) A sense of adventure. The "cache" is some sort of container that holds a log where people sign their names to show they found the cache, as well as items to trade for if you would like to keep something from the cache. Hence, the treasure hunt!

So, for our "I" date, we went investigating! We hit the road in search of geocaches. Now I will go ahead and tell you before you get too far into this post that we were unsuccessful in finding the caches. We looked at our local park for some hidden caches, and due to the heat and bushy terrain, we gave up pretty quickly on those. We also looked for one in the local graveyard, and I'm still convinced that cache must be missing because, I tell you, I know exactly where it must be hidden and it's not there! But being unsuccessful at locating the caches didn't keep us from having a fabulous time. We have found 2 caches in Canton already, one located in our church parking lot. It is a whole lot more enjoyable when you can find the cache and log your name, but the search is still fun.

Anyway, back to the date. We loaded up our bikes and went to the park first. As I said already, it was much too hot and the bushes were much to thick and prickly for us to try to hard at locating these caches. But it was nice to get a little exercise while on a date! We then went to the old cemetery in Canton and searched for one more cache. When we couldn't find that one, we decided it was time for our picnic that we'd packed, and what better place to have a picnic than an old, old graveyard, right? So yes, we picnicked in the graveyard, and it was fantastic. It was so peaceful, and obviously, when you picnic in a graveyard, that sparks all sorts of interesting conversations. After our picnic, we walked around the graveyard and investigated, looking at all the different headstones and guessing at some of the people's stories based on their headstones. The families with one or even multiple buried babies/children in the late 1800s and early 1900s definitely broke my heart. The most interesting headstone was for a man that was hung in Canton back in the late 1800s. He was a horse thief. He is buried facing North/South, while the rest of those in the graveyard are buried East/West, which Trey explained to me has to do with the religious belief that Christ will return coming from the East. Interesting, huh?

Here are some pics from our date! If you hadn't noticed, "free" has been the theme of our last couple ABC dates :)

 At the park to search for the caches

 All I could think about was being stung by a red hornet the other week, so I was a little hesitant to search in this foliage!

 Picnic at the cemetary!

 Relaxing after a delicious meal of sandwiches, chips, fruit, and Mountain Dew.

 Our view from the ground. It was so peaceful.